I always thought that breastfeeding would be the easiest thing in the world and I knew as soon as I became pregnant with Max that that was how I wanted to feed him. I was 23 when I had him and all I knew about breastfeeding was that my mum had breastfed the three of us without any problems, so I naively assumed it would be the same for me.
I tried hard to breastfeed both of my babies but couldn’t get either of them to latch on properly. Max ended up losing quite a lot of weight and in the end I just gave up and moved on to formula.
Evie was born at 36 weeks, was a tiny 5lb 6oz and had a tongue tie so I knew breastfeeding was going to be difficult but still I tried. Unfortunately it didn’t work out again but I felt more at peace with it this time around, I tried and that’s the best I could do. I did go on to express a little milk for the first few weeks, just so she was getting something from me but it wasn’t much and I couldn’t keep it up for very long with a crazy toddler to look after too!
I believe that breast is best and that everyone should at least try to feed their baby that way before giving formula. The point I would like to get across is that if you are unable to breastfeed for whatever reason, that is fine! No woman should be made to feel guilty or not good enough simply because she formula feeds her baby. At the end of the day we’re all mothers just trying to do the best we can.
Here are my reasons for not feeling guilty about it and why you shouldn’t either.
1. My kids are happy and healthy
First and foremost, my children are happy and healthy! Formula has not harmed my children.
2. Happy mum = happy baby
What I struggle with here is that some mums put themselves through hell trying to breastfeed, you end up with an unhappy mum and an unhappy baby who is losing weight. That mum is missing out on those precious first few days/weeks of her babies life and that makes me sad.
3. Dads can help out
I’m not saying that dads can’t help out or bond with their baby unless they are formula fed, of course there are other ways of bonding with a baby other than feeding. But, especially after my first child I was so so tired, emotional and just generally overwhelmed, I needed the help of my husband. We shared the night feeds which meant I could sleep a little more which is something that I really needed at that time.
4. I still bonded with my babies
Breastfeeding is a great way to bond with your baby but formula feeding doesn’t mean that you can’t bond. I managed to bond with my babies and have a great bond with both of them now they are older.
5. I fed my baby
I did was was best for my babies and that was was to feed them. Nuff said.
I realise there may be some people reading this shaking their heads and I may get some negative comments, but that’s fine, we can’t all agree all of the time. But if just one mum reads this and feels a little bit better about being unable to breastfeed, then it is worth it 🙂
Thanks for reading.