People don’t like to talk about this sort of thing and understandably so, but I think that it is perfectly normal to like one of your children more than the other. So here I am, admitting that I do have a favourite child, and you know what? I bet you do too.
Let me make this clear, I love both of my children equally, I really do. They are my babies, they are perfect and I wouldn’t change either of them for the world, but one of them is far easier to get along with and I prefer spending time with them. If you haven’t already guessed, I am indeed talking about my daughter Evie being my favourite child.
Of course I would always deny having a favourite child to my children because I think that that sort of information would be hurtful and possibly even damaging to a child. But is it OK to think it? I reckon so. And even if it isn’t ‘OK’, I still think that it’s a normal thing to feel.
You may be reading this thinking that the reason that I’m saying this is because Max is on the autism spectrum, and yes I guess that probably does play a part. It means that he can be incredibly hard work at times but there is far more to it than just his autism diagnosis.
Me and Evie are very similar personality wise which does sometimes mean that we clash but it also means that we get on very well most of the time. The majority of the time she is laid back, happy and just generally a joy to be around.
I often feel like me and Max don’t have much in common. He gets wound up very easily, doesn’t like going out anywhere that isn’t the park or soft play and likes to spend a lot of time alone in his bedroom. I am trying very hard to work on our relationship and it is improving, but I don’t think it’s ever going to be easy all of the time.
I do however think that your favourite child can change throughout the years, depending on what phase they or you are going through and other circumstances. I definitely preferred the baby stage with Max more than I did with Evie. Evie was incredibly clingy as a baby and it was so hard, I look back on my time just me and Max with fonder memories.
I am kind of expecting Evie to be a nightmare when she’s a teenage as she’s already a little diva and I think in general boys are easier than girls during the teenage years, or maybe you just worry about them less? So who knows who will be the ‘favourite’ at that point…
What are your thoughts on this? Do you have a favourite child?
Thanks for reading.