Yes, I DO Have a Favourite Child

People don’t like to talk about this sort of thing and understandably so, but I think that it is perfectly normal to like one of your children more than the other. So here I am, admitting that I do have a favourite child, and you know what? I bet you do too.

Let me make this clear, I love both of my children equally, I really do. They are my babies, they are perfect and I wouldn’t change either of them for the world, but one of them is far easier to get along with and I prefer spending time with them. If you haven’t already guessed, I am indeed talking about my daughter Evie being my favourite child.

Of course I would always deny having a favourite child to my children because I think that that sort of information would be hurtful and possibly even damaging to a child. But is it OK to think it? I reckon so. And even if it isn’t ‘OK’, I still think that it’s a normal thing to feel.

You may be reading this thinking that the reason that I’m saying this is because Max is on the autism spectrum, and yes I guess that probably does play a part. It means that he can be incredibly hard work at times but there is far more to it than just his autism diagnosis.

Me and Evie are very similar personality wise which does sometimes mean that we clash but it also means that we get on very well most of the time. The majority of the time she is laid back, happy and just generally a joy to be around.

I often feel like me and Max don’t have much in common. He gets wound up very easily, doesn’t like going out anywhere that isn’t the park or soft play and likes to spend a lot of time alone in his bedroom. I am trying very hard to work on our relationship and it is improving, but I don’t think it’s ever going to be easy all of the time.

I do however think that your favourite child can change throughout the years, depending on what phase they or you are going through and other circumstances. I definitely preferred the baby stage with Max more than I did with Evie. Evie was incredibly clingy as a baby and it was so hard, I look back on my time just me and Max with fonder memories.

I am kind of expecting Evie to be a nightmare when she’s a teenage as she’s already a little diva and I think in general boys are easier than girls during the teenage years, or maybe you just worry about them less? So who knows who will be the ‘favourite’ at that point…

What are your thoughts on this? Do you have a favourite child?

Thanks for reading.


 

3 Comments

  1. February 5, 2017 / 9:53 am

    Ooh so tricky! Yes, I love them all equally. But Anya is very definitely naughtier than Matthew was/is plus she is in the tantrumy stage so I admit sometimes not liking her as much 🙁 Zach is too young to have much personality but when he was waking 8 plus times a night, he was not my favourite! Great post, love the honesty 🙂

  2. February 6, 2017 / 3:30 am

    I loved your honesty in this post! It always befuddles me when a parent says that they don’t have a favourite, and I’m going “what?”. I just don’t believe them when they say that. I don’t have any kids of my own just yet, but even I know I would have a favourite depending on who I get along with better, especially because I’m an introvert and people in general tire me out. Not that I would spoil one over the other!

    Stephii Mattea xx

  3. February 6, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    I think it is normal but as long as you are equal to them it isnt too bad. I think that kids do recognise who is the favourite child and I guess the relationship will be a bit more strained because of that. But I did love your honesty in this post! I only have one kid so I don’t know how I will be 🙂

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