This isn’t one of those posts that’s likely to get many views or really interest anyone very much but I started my blog as a place to write things down and to have a good moan, so that’s what I’m going to do…
We’ve just got back from a hospital appointment with Max, a hearing appointment to be specific and it turns out he has mild hearing loss in his right ear. I’m just feeling really really upset about it, the poor kid is developing quite an impressive list of problems.
What will it be next?
Back when he first started preschool they picked up on a problem and asked me to get his hearing and eye sight checked. When I took him to the GP she was willing to refer him for a hearing test but not for the eye test as she thought he was able to see as much as he needed too.
When he had that first hearing test he was probably only three so they struggled with the testing as he just wasn’t concentrating enough. We went back six months later, he passed the test this time and we were discharged.
Fast forward to a few months ago and he fails his school hearing test so he is referred to the hospital once again. I came very close to cancelling this appointment as I really didn’t think there was a problem. And that’s what’s upsetting me most about this, and about his eye sight problems. How did I not realise there was a problem?
I had noticed him responding with “what?” a lot recently but I know that children with autism can have auditory processing problems so I just put it down to that. Like he would say “what?” before he’d given his brain a chance to think. His teacher even commented on the fact that he needs more ‘think time’ than other kids, which just backed up what I thought.
I fully expected to come out of this appointment having been told that there was no problem with his hearing. It’s come as a bit of a shock.
He’s been diagnosed as having mild conductive hearing loss, which means that there is a build up of fluid in the middle ear, behind the eardrum. It CAN correct itself, but it can also get worse. And with hindsight, I would say it seems to me like it has been getting worse.
We go back to the hospital in three months to see if it has gotten better/worse. If it’s still the same or worse we’ll be referred to the ear, nose and throat department who will look at fitting a grommet or a hearing aid.
In the mean time we just need to make sure that we speak loudly and clearly to him, and make sure his teacher knows to do the same.
I just feel so sorry for the kid, I really do, it breaks my heart with everything he has to go though. And I feel like a bit of a failure as a mother right now too. I should have known.
Thanks for reading.