Am I Autistic Too?

Since Max’s diagnosis in February I’ve been thinking a lot about ASD and how it can run in families. As far as me and my husband are aware there is no history of autism in either of our families, so this got me thinking more about myself and whether I could be the link.

I remember watching a programme about autism a few years ago, before having children, and the AQ (autism spectrum quotient) test  was mentioned so I went online and had a go at it. I can’t remember my exact score but I remember it being fairly high but I didn’t really think much of it at the time and just brushed it off.

Fast forward to now in my current curious state and I decided I would take the test again. This time I scored 34 which is a high score. According to the website where I took the test, a score over 32 is enough to diagnose someone with ASD. A borderline score is between 26 and 31, 86% of people with a borderline score can be correctly classified as having ASD.

I’m certainly not relying on this test as I struggle to see how a quick 10 minute test alone can be enough to diagnose someone with autism. But it’s certainly interesting and it has got me wondering.

I asked my husband what he thought about my score, expecting him to tell me I was being silly and that it was nonsense. He told me that I definitely have some autistic traits and he’s right, I struggle with eye contact, I like routine, I can’t cope with stress, I’m not good in social situations, I’m very sensitive to noise and smells and I don’t like change. But is this enough to label myself as autistic?

Is it possible to display some autistic traits but not actually be autistic? Maybe we are all on the spectrum somewhere, after all it is so vast.

I’m not sure what I think, maybe I do have ASD and maybe I don’t. Either way I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t really matter, I am not about to go out and seek a diagnosis because it would make no difference to me.

But it’s a really thought provoking subject and makes me wonder if there are other mums of autistic children who have thought about this too and have maybe gone on to be diagnosed. Or whether, like me, they have their suspicions but have never felt a need to take it any further.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this, please leave a comment.

Thanks for reading.



  1. April 29, 2016 / 8:09 am

    Hi, I worked in a secondary school with disabled and SEN children (mainstream school so classes were mixed) and in our training we were told that every single person appears on the autistic spectrum, just at different levels. So yep, you are prob slightly as are all of us! Do not beat yourself up. So little is known about autism and for me the world would be a pretty dull place if we were all the same 😉

    • April 29, 2016 / 8:23 am

      Hi, thanks for commenting. Yes I think you’re right that everyone is on the spectrum somewhere and it definitely would be a very boring world if we were all the same! x

  2. April 29, 2016 / 12:49 pm

    I would love a third child, but since I just birthed a second two weeks ago, I can wait a bit. My husband nixed it, but might change his mind. I’m almost forty. My husband is fifty, and I wonder about having a third with autism given new data statistics. Paternal age is becoming increasingly assessed, and my husband, while very healthy, is still old enough to have sucky sperm.

    But, then I think along thoughts178, and conclude that if we are blessed to have a third, there is any range of quirkiness he/she could have. So many amazing contributions to the world have been made my quirkiness and outliers. Autism or something else, does it matter? Amazing can still be amazing whatever form. So, if your quirks are what helps you be an amazing mom and create things like this blog to open a conversation that isn’t so dismal about the latest scarlet “A,” does it matter if you brandish it as well?

  3. April 29, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    I can so relate to this. My son has ADD, a different thing of course, but it involves the same process of noticing, questioning,understanding, accepting and then advocating on his behalf to those who don’t understand. He is 19 now and the ADD is just a small part of him. The entirety is so much more.

  4. April 30, 2016 / 5:29 pm

    Hmmm Emma, questionable….I don’t know, but I think a lot of us have certain traits in us, but it doesn’t necessary mean we are on the Autism Spectrum. I think we just must just accept whatever traits we may have and make the best of them whichever way possible. 🙂

  5. April 30, 2016 / 8:21 pm

    My nephew is autistic as well, and in researching, my sister started noticing traits in her husband that matched my nephew. I think it’s natural to wonder about that. The diagnosis really only matters if you believe you need help with something or another and need the diagnosis to attain it. Often, though, the parents pick up a lot themselves in their quests to help their kids.