Schools Out For Summer!

Well that’s it, school is over for a whole seven weeks! What on earth am I going to do to keep them occupied for that long? It’s going to be a challenge that’s for sure but on the plus side, no more get ups and rushing around in the morning, yay!

This has been our first proper school year, with Max starting in reception and Evie starting Preschool in April. It’s taken some getting used to but I think we’ve all adapted well to our new routine.

I had worried about how Max would cope with school but although we’ve had the odd problem, on the whole he’s done really well and thrives on the routine and structure at school.

I really can’t believe how much he’s learnt over the past 10 months, he started school not being able to read and only being able to write his name. Now he can read and write, it’s completely amazing! He really has done amazingly and I’m so proud of him.

Max is super excited to start year 1 in September, despite his autism he actually handles change pretty well. I expect there will be a few teething problems when he realises that things are done a little bit different in year 1, and with a new teacher and new class room, but I’m confident that he will adapt pretty quickly.

Evie started preschool in April and although a little tearful to start with she soon got used to it. However, over the past few weeks she’s gone back to being really upset when I leave her there. It’s even got to the point where she begs me from the second she wakes up in a morning not to take her to school.

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I don’t know if this is just a phase or if preschool just isn’t for her, or even if something has happened that’s upset her. It breaks my heart leaving her in tears because really she doesn’t even need to be there, it’s not compulsory. But I’m also conscious that if I do take her out, it might just make it harder for her when she starts big school in September 2017.

It’s so hard to know what to do for the best.

When she goes back in September she is moving into the other preschool building, which will mean different children, different environment and different staff, so yet more change for her to get used to. Who knows, maybe the Summer break will do her good? Or maybe it’ll make her even more upset and clingy, I really don’t know what to expect but I guess we’ll just have to wait and see. I’m just going to try and not think about it over the Summer and just enjoy having her at home.

Have any of you had problems with leaving your children at preschool/school? Did they get used to it in the end? I’d love to hear some positive stories right now.

Thanks for reading.


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31 Comments

  1. July 15, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    It’s so hard when they cry! Well done Max for adapting so well. Good luck when big school starts. Can’t wait to read all about it!

    • Emma
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      July 15, 2016 / 8:15 pm

      Thank you 🙂 x

  2. Sian N
    July 15, 2016 / 7:19 pm

    No advice on what to do, but it really isn’t the end of the world if she doesn’t go to preschool. The whole preschool thing is something we really agonised over. S goes to a childminder 3 days a week and has since 21 Months, and we were looking at preschool with wraparound care this September in “preparation for school”. I wasn’t comfortable with the idea, as i feel they spend enough time in the education type setting, class groups etc, but thought it was the done thing.
    After a few weeks deliberating we decided that we were going to stick with our current arrangement until reception. At the end of the day, reception is to prepare them for year 1 of school, so preschool is just further extending that (in my opinion). It’s not a bad thing, but for us we decided that it was far more beneficial to S to be in a “home” environment (granted her CM is not her home, but you get my meaning) during these early years, until she has to attend school. It’s quite recent that foundation / reception year even became a thing, so that’s a whole year of preparation for the next 13 years of education!

    Just my two pennies worth. My opinion is that it really isn’t worth upsetting them unless the thing they’re doing is compulsory – in which case they’ll just have to get used to it with time and support.

    You know your child. Don’t let anyone else push you into doing / not doing what your heart wants for your children. You’re doing great!

    • Emma
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      July 15, 2016 / 8:13 pm

      I’ve thought about a childminder instead and I think if she’s still unsettled in September I’ll definitely look into it. It just seems odd that she started to get used to it and then suddenly decided she hated it, it’s like something happened but she won’t tell me what. She’s so sensitive though, it could be something as simple as someone taking a toy off her! x

  3. July 16, 2016 / 7:35 am

    Some real highs and lows with the kids and their experiences then. It’s probably of little help but my boy goes to nursery 2 days a week and all had been going swimmingly, then about 4 months ago drop offs became a nightmare, tears, screaming, literally clinging to me. There seemed nothing I could do. Nothing had changed. He still had an awesome time during the day. He would also ask not to go from the second he woke up. Over the last few weeks that has changed though and it seems to be working well me staying for 5 minutes and getting him settled into an activity. That being said I have no other kids to drop off, I work from home so can take that time and nursery is different to pre school. See how September goes, the summer break might be just what she needs. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:48 am

      Hopefully the break will do her good. I will definitely try staying with her and getting her settled first x

  4. July 16, 2016 / 9:27 am

    Oh I’m thrilled it’s the summer for you now – seems like Evie and you could do with the break. You never know – she will be a little older come September and may start to enjoy it more – or you may find over the holidays that she may tell you what she is feeling more – I always felt that leaving the children to draw pictures about nursery and school always helped to get an understanding about what was going on more and then you can talk about the picture and say oh you haven’t drawn this person or that person or this teacher etc … it may help. Glad all ok for your son. Hope you have a wonderful family summer full of gorgeous memories and sunshine! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:49 am

      Thanks for the tip. Seven weeks is a long time, so hopefully things will be better after the break x

  5. July 16, 2016 / 11:39 am

    It’s such a huge adjustment and my little girl went through that. Cried every day I left her there. It was heartbreaking even though I knew that within 5 minutes she wasn’t crying anymore and was completely happy as a friend would tell me or the teacher would let me know. Doesn’t help! My little girl changed though and into her second year adjusted so much better and then understood I would pick her up at the end of the day, plus she had moved into finding her group. Once they moved from parallel playing and properly engaging things changed. But then we knew the centre as our son had been there so I knew how great it was. So I persevered. I hope she adjusts xx

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:51 am

      She used to be teary for a while but they told me she was fine as soon as I’d gone, so I was OK with that. But now she’s heartbroken and they’ve admitted that she seems sad while she’s there and will cling to one of the staff 🙁 x

  6. July 16, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    I had problems with both of mine for a while going to nursery. I don’t have any advice but with mine they ‘grew out’ of it after a few weeks. Hope the same is for you. And I am a little bit nervous about what on earth I am going to do to entertain my 5 year old for six whole weeks! xx

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:42 am

      I’m struggling to entertain them already and it’s only day two haha x x

  7. July 17, 2016 / 7:16 am

    They do get used to it in the end, it’s heartbreaking when they cry but I believe it’s best for them to get used to it ready for school. Otherwise it will be a huge shock to them then – you’ll still have the same problem just later in the year! My little one has been at nursery since he was 8 months old and when he went to the pre-school room he cried because he wanted to be back with the babies! After a week no more tears and he loves it 🙂 keep trying and good luck! I know it’s awful when they cry but its best for them to get used to it ready for big school xx #KCACOLS

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:41 am

      It’s just strange that she was OK to start with and three months on she seems to hate it 🙁 x

  8. July 17, 2016 / 7:53 am

    That first year is amazing isn’t it. How they progress so much with writing and reading. My big girl has just finished year 3 and the move to big school seems to be creeping nearer and nearer. I’m hoping the holidays pass without too much pain and too much “what are we doing today?” Or the dreaded “I’m bored!”. #kcacols

    • Emma
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      July 17, 2016 / 8:40 am

      It really is, I had no idea he would learn so much. They are like sponges at this age! x

  9. July 17, 2016 / 6:03 pm

    I’m a bit lucky with my son when he started pre-school and primary, I didn’t have any problems like that. He settled in really well. My little girl will be starting pre-school in August and I’m worried, she can be shy and clingy sometimes but she’s also bold on the other hand. Hopefully, our kids will settle in well in the upcoming school year. Good luck to us and to them too! #KCACOLS

    • Emma
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      July 18, 2016 / 7:52 pm

      My son wasn’t like this at all so I’m not used to it! I hope your little girl gets on OK x

  10. July 18, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    Oh, it can be so tough when they don’t settle, Emma. Perhaps the summer and a change of class will do her good, as you say. I hope things will settle down. #Fortheloveofblog

    • Emma
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      July 19, 2016 / 7:52 am

      Fingers crossed. Thanks for reading x

  11. July 20, 2016 / 10:18 am

    So happy that Max is adjusting well to school (: I know it must be such a strange experience to watch your baby grow and transform into this reading and writing child right before your eyes. But, I hope he continues to thrive in the school environment. I’m sorry to hear that Evie is struggling with school though. I know it must be frustrating and confusing for you on what to do, but as her mom I know you’ll make the best decision! Thanks for sharing <3

    • Emma
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      July 21, 2016 / 9:00 am

      Thank you and thanks for reading x

  12. July 20, 2016 / 10:19 am

    Ahh! This is all so similar to us! My eldest has 2 days left in Reception class, she’s come along way since September where she hated going to school. It is so amazing to see them now reading and writing!! My youngest (Eva!) also started pre-school and after a shaky start, she now loves it. I think you should continue with your daughter, I bet the summer will do her good and she may have grown up emotionally a bit more come September. I hope you enjoy the summer and not having to do the school run for 6 weeks (woo-hoo!!) Good luck for September. #KCACOLS X

    • Emma
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      July 21, 2016 / 9:02 am

      I’m really hoping things will be better from September. She’s already playing school with Max, pretending she’s at preschool so she can’t hate it that much can she?! x

  13. July 20, 2016 / 8:07 pm

    Oh it’s so hard leaving them when they’re crying – we are yet to go through this but hope Evie finds it a bit easier soon. Hope she settles in September 🙂 I can’t believe it’s the holidays either…this year has whizzed past! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Emma
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      July 21, 2016 / 9:03 am

      Crossing my fingers that things will be better come September x

  14. July 21, 2016 / 1:46 pm

    That must be really difficult especially if you don’t have to leave her there. I’ve not experienced this myself but I know its pretty common from talking to other parents. Maybe she is just over tired and will get a chance to refresh her batteries over summer? Thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x

  15. July 22, 2016 / 8:02 am

    Its so hard isn’t it! What I will say is I have been one of the mums that are still there when the child is upset and I’ve seen just how quickly they cheer up and bounce back once they can’t see you and the teacher/preschool worker calms them down. My Evie has been the opposite, she has always just ran in, hardly even saying goodbye to be honest. I don’t know if it’s because she’s used to really long days at nursery or because when she first went we lived in a hostel and had to share a room, plus were constantly around other families…maybe it was nice for her to just have loads of space to run around in! We are in the same place as you too, Evie has just finished Reception and is so excited about moving into her Year 1 class, she really likes her new teacher too which is a bonus! Thanks so much for sharing at #KCACOLS hope to see you next time 🙂

    • Emma
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      July 22, 2016 / 4:17 pm

      I never had this problem with Max, he was always happy to go in so this is all new to me x

  16. July 22, 2016 / 2:43 pm

    Sounds like Max has done brilliantly in reception! My son’s just finished reception too and I’m also amazed at how much he’s learnt in the last year! x #KCACOLS

    • Emma
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      July 22, 2016 / 4:20 pm

      It’s crazy isn’t it? x